Even though it's February and it's the month to capatilize on the relationships of romantic love. . .I find this whole year has been focused on my own personal relationships. The one of romantic variety and all the others.
Being ADHD (and udiagnosed until recent years) I have struggled with relationships. I'm not jealous, greedy, uncaring, or any of those things. I seem more impatient than I am. Not that I mean to come across that way. It's hard for me to explain how fast my mind runs. I can process a conversation faster than I can actually have one and by the time a person finishes speaking, I'm already on the next subject in my brain.
It takes a very special person to love me.
Four the last four years God has been showing me about relationships. (Actually longer than that I think, but I'm not sure I was paying attention all those years, lol.) I've learned about who are my friends and who aren't. Who is willing to use you to get what they want and there are those who abuse. There are also those precious few that really do care about you. And those that are like me. Don't show their affection well.
Our preacher had a lesson recently about how we try to force God into our own preconcieved notions and miss the splendor of who God actually is. I carried it a step further and realized that not only had I done that, I had done is with all the relationships in my life. My husband, my friends, my family members. I tend to be judgemental. Now I never considered myself judgemental, but I do follow my intuitive side and I will make a split decision based on what I "feel" at the moment I meet a person. Apparently I can also decide in a split second where to compartmentalize a person in my life.
Now that I've figured this out, I've set my husband free (no, we're still married, I just set him free of my expectations and have learned to let him be himself, he's really a pretty kewl guy, which I knew when I married him), my family members (as for my kids they still have rules to follow, but same thing, I let them be theirselves), and my friends. I lifted my expectations of my friends and a veil fell away. It's amazing what you learn when you let people be themselves. I will admit that all these lessons I've learned have NOT been easy. I have changed a lot along the way (for the better I hope. . .still working on the impulsive thing though) and lots of the lessons came at a high price. But it's all been well worth it.
I realized that my strongest relationships, the ones I can trust the most, the ones who would rather die than hurt me, the ones who understand, are the ones close to home. I have God and he blessed me with a wonderful husband. What else can a girl ask for?
I hope that you will take a good look at your relationships this month. I'd like to touch on them some more this coming week. But I won't make any promises. This year God has called me to put my family before all else. And I'm trying to plan a very special week for the whole week preceeding Valentines Day for my sweetie. I just hope he'll be surprised. :D (Giving presents based on HIS love language, not mine.)
Have a great evening and hold those dear ones close to your hearts. Now is the time to make memories because now be the only time you have.